As I'm home waiting to bring my daughter to her doctor's appointment to confirm a fractured ankle that was diagnosed last night in the ER, I thought about blogging again. I haven't found the need to write in over six months. Nothing really got me going as photography has become my true creative outlet. However, as I was looking at my photos from last's night's game, I saw something I needed to vent about.
As parents of athletes, we know our place in the stands well. We love to support our teams and our children, be there when they need us, be there when they don't think they need us (lol!), and have a good time watching the development of their team and themselves. Right? But one of the biggest fears is having a game called by referees who seem to forget how to call a game.
Time and time again it happens and of course refs are people too and they will make mistakes (I know what it is like to be second guessed as I was an NJSIAA official for high school gymnastics). However, when refs do not set up the parameters of the game, all rules go out the window and athletes are essentially on their own to defend themselves on the field. Believe me, I'm all for them playing their heart out and pushing it to the next level, but sometimes they push it because they know they can pull it off without getting called for it.
I'm not upset about our girls losing games. I am not upset about even an unfairly called game so much as I am about letting them play in a game that is dangerous. Soccer is definitely an impact sport! With all the concussions and injuries happening, it is a risk that all players take as they step onto the field. My problem is that the refs need to be refreshed in the current way the sport is being ruled.
When the ref told my daughter after being tossed around that, "It was all ball," she thought he was joking ...
My question is why do NJ high schools only use a two man referee system? FIFA does not recognize a two man system. If this was football, and another ref was needed, it would be no problem. The game has limits when only two referees are watching. We finally get a three man system if the team makes it to semi-finals in counties. But ... travel and club games ... they use a three man system for every full sided game. This makes absolutely no sense! And here's my last rant ... for those players who play club year round, I know they get a lot of pressure not to play in high school - this is why. Too many injuries that make it hard to continue playing.
So sad, because the love of the game, the good friends they grew up with and trying to make their high school proud is why they play.
Have a great weekend!