Hope your Mother's Day was fantastic ... Was it what we all dream of? ... a day without laundry, cooking, cleaning or picking up dirty clothes? Ahh yes! Sounds like bliss!
The other night I was going through my old teaching stuff. Yeah, it's time to finally release all the old teaching posters, books, bulletin board papers, books, etc. I came across my old calendars from my time before kids. What a kick! Distances run, miles biked, weekends away, and dinners with friends were all over the boxes! I had a good laugh and couldn't wait to show my husband when he came home with my daughter from a scrimmage late into Thursday night. The days before kids were full of fun! What I had no idea about was what I really was missing. I looked at the calendar and thought what did I really do before I became a mother? Well, I was having fun and loved my students greatly, but I couldn't imagine life right now without them. I'm sure you all feel the same way as being a full-time mom is sometimes over-whelming, with no time off, but you wouldn't want to change things one bit!
Hopefully yesterday gave you a few minutes to lie in bed a little longer, enjoy a meal that someone else lovingly prepared or even if you're like me you were on a field cheering on your children (I used to laugh when I'd hear parents complaining about Mother's Day games, our league doesn't ever give Mother's Day off and they were shocked we had to play)!
Time to ourselves is precious. We are constantly doing for others and often times forget to give to ourselves. I hear this all the time from friends and clients. The thing is this ... if we don't make time for ourselves, our families feel the strain. We give, give, give and eventually this gets old. The vibe in our voices, the health of our bodies, and our relationships begin to weaken. Here is one simple tip that I have found works for everyone:
Add Yourself to Your To-Do List!
If you really want to feel better and have a family that reflects your happiness, make time for yourself. Even 10 minutes a day can have profound effects on your health.
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Turn off your smartphone ... even if it is just for 30 minutes during the day. The constant connectedness never ends ... ours brains never focus on just one thing anymore as we are constantly being pulled in many directions. Try it ... you may like it!!!
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Schedule your time ... sometimes we just don't have enough hours in the day for ourselves. Put the scheduled "you" time into your calendar and stick to it. Get that walk in, go to the movies, take a nap, play that game, etc!
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Create rituals and routines ... we all know routines work but somehow we tend to avoid them. My biggest tool lately is the sticky pad!! I use them to remind me of my intentions for the day and rip them off my "list wall" every time something is completed. Woohoo! That feeling of success is motivating!
By creating some "You Time" you will be able to enjoy your family with a bit more perspective. Before you know it, they're grown up! I could never really appreciate this until lately, as many of my friends' kids are off to college. My daughter begins high school in the Fall! We will be expanding our driveway as now we will have 3 cars in the driveway in the coming year and a half. We are getting our sights set on how to find a college that fits her needs, and so on. How did this happen so fast? While it is really difficult to not get caught up in the "busy-ness" of the days, I try to take a step back every day and enjoy my kids and our crazy schedules!
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Hannah's 7th birthday party! |
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Sophie turning 12! | | |
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Much Love and Positive Energy to You All,
Krista